But I just wanted to share that we had a successful trip out as a family last weekend!
I could write a whole blog post around the reasons why I don’t drive so I’ll save that for another time, but days out have to be planned with precision, I often just wish that I could have the ability to just jump into a car and whizz the kids off at any opportunity. But sadly not, we have to plan trips based around public transport and we are extremely luckily to live only a 5 minute walk from a train station.
Lou is now getting quite accustomed to using the train now, and as long as she has something to ‘fidget’ such as her ‘fidget cube,’ then she’s normally ok on journeys lasting under 30 minutes. On Saturday June 10th we visited a local animal park, the weather wasn’t too bad and the rain held off but I was surprised actually how quiet it was which was only a good thing in our case as both Lou and myself don’t cope very well with crowds of people. On previous days out Lou had become overwhelmed and then has experienced a ‘sensory overload,’ sometimes resulting in us leaving earlier than planned.
The girls enjoyed a quiet look around the animals and Lou was impressed with the parrot saying enthusiastically: “Mummy, quickly look, it’s Rio!” This was also our first proper trip to use the ‘Mountain Buggy’ for Lou and she had a perfect view!
Trips out have to be carefully planned and we have to offer a lot of choices for Lou throughout the day, due to the fact that Lou displays traits of Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA,) she prefers to dictate to us what she wants to do and where she wants to go, knowing that she would have happily stayed in the ‘soft play’ area the whole time, and that Moo was desperate to see the animals, we had to say things such as: “Now it is seeing the animals and then it is soft play.” As long as Lou feels that she has some sort of control over decisions she’s improved in public situations since this time last year.
Lou was understandably tired after such a busy day out and the train journey home wasn’t as straight forward as the way there!
I often end up feeling guilty that my girls don’t experience days out like some other families do, but with money restrictions and the pace that our children are learning to cope with situations, we are learning that we can only do our best. We are now planning for a similar trip once a month, until the girls are familiar with the process, sticking to places that are a direct train journey away such as Worcester or Malvern. Then hopefully further a field eventually.
Sometimes we just have to do things our own way and not worry about what other people are doing!
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**Please note that this is not a specific review of the animal park we attended, the photos are my own and we paid full ticket price to get into the park, I wanted to share the details of taking our children on days out.
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